Something happened today that’s really ruffled my feathers. Earlier, The Fix reported Bachelorette Sam Frost has sparked concern over her latest selfie on Instagram.
Cue the keyboard warriors chucking in their two cents with comments like “I liked you more when you weren’t skinny” and “Don’t you have neck bones? “How the hell does your head stay up? Puzzling.”
Then of course, there were those who left comments ‘concerned’ for Sam’s health, claiming “She is too thin” and asking her to “Please get healthy soon xx”.
I’m going to come right out and call b**l sh*t on this. If you’re someone who leaves these sorts of comments, you’re not concerned. You’re using that as an excuse to publicly body shame a woman based on her appearance, and it’s not okay.
Not that it’s any of our business, but let’s assume for a moment that Sam is battling with weight issues, are thousands of comments on her body really going to help that? I think not. How about you leave
Rebecca Judd has also recently come out claiming she has been shamed for her slight frame. I don’t know about you, but it’s quite evident to me that Bec is simply naturally thin, and there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT! It’s deemed unacceptable to brand someone as overweight, why doesn’t the same doesn’t apply to accusing women of being too thin? Oh also, if Bec Judd did have an eating disorder, do you think she would have been able to have 3 successful pregnancies, one of which was twins?! Probably not.
So if you’re about to comment on a woman’s weight out of ‘concern’, think again. You don’t know this woman, her genetic makeup that determines her weight, or the medical/mental issues she may be facing. This woman has family and friends of her own who can speak with her if there is an issue. She doesn’t need faceless women on social media reprimanding her.
Leave these women alone, focus on yourself, and if you absolutely HAVE to write something?
Speak with love, not thinly veiled criticism.
If you are genuinely concerned for a friend or family member, you can contact the Butterfly Foundation for advice on how to best help them.
Be kind to one another ladies x